How to Find Balance in the Chaos

Juggling It All: Finding Balance in the Chaos

As women, we’re often expected to play a million roles—mom, wife, caregiver, employee, chef, chauffeur, the list goes on. And let’s be real, most days it feels like we’re barely keeping our heads above water. The pressure to be “supermom” is real, and the mental gymnastics we perform to find balance in the chaos can be downright exhausting.

We’re told we need to balance a thriving career, keep a picture-perfect home, cook meals from scratch, and manage packed schedules without breaking a sweat. But here’s the truth: nobody can do it all, all the time, without dropping a ball or two. And that’s okay!

The real challenge isn’t in meeting unrealistic expectations—it’s in finding harmony in the beautiful chaos of our lives. That’s where the magic happens.

Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations

Can we talk about how society (and sometimes even we) set the most ridiculous expectations for ourselves? It’s as if we’re running on a hamster wheel, trying to live up to a “perfect” image that doesn’t exist. Social media only adds fuel to the fire, giving us a front-row seat to what appears to be everyone else’s flawless life. But here’s the reality: real life is messy, and that’s what makes it beautiful.

Trying to do it all and be it all leads to burnout. So, let’s stop striving for perfection and instead focus on progress. Allow yourself to be human. It’s okay if the house isn’t spotless, or if dinner is takeout instead of home-cooked. Embrace the chaos, because it’s in those imperfect moments that we find joy.

The Weight of the Mental Load

The mental load we carry as moms is no joke. From remembering every school event to managing the household, it’s easy to feel like we’re drowning. And if you’re anything like me, there are times you wish someone would swoop in and help carry the load, but it doesn’t always work that way.

I know the feeling of wanting to “do it all myself” because asking for help feels harder. But we’re not meant to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. It’s important to ask for help, whether from our partners, family, or friends. And when support doesn’t come easily, it’s even more important to find your tribe—other moms who get it. They’re out there, and they’re struggling to find balance in the chaos just like you.

Prioritizing Self-Care (Yes, It’s a Must!)

Here’s the thing: you can’t pour from an empty cup. It’s tempting to put everyone else’s needs before your own, but what happens when you’re completely drained? Burnout, exhaustion, overwhelm. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Carving out time for yourself is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Whether it’s a quiet cup of coffee before the kids wake up or slipping away for a power nap, you deserve it. And the truth is, when you take care of yourself, you’ll find that you have more to give to those around you.

Practical Tips for Finding Balance in the Chaos

So, how do we navigate the craziness of mom life without losing our sanity? Here are a few tips that have helped me, and I hope they can help you too:

Prioritize Meaningful Moments: Instead of stressing over an endless to-do list, focus on one or two tasks that truly matter. Leave room for connection with your loved ones throughout the day.
Give Yourself Grace: Some days, things won’t go as planned. That’s life. When that happens, remember it’s okay to let go and embrace the messy moments. You’re doing great.
Communicate Your Needs: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, speak up! Let your loved ones know what you need. You’d be surprised at how willing they are to step in if they know how to help.
Say No When You Need To: It’s okay to say no to commitments that don’t align with your priorities. Your time and energy are valuable, and it’s important to protect them.
Celebrate the Small Wins: Every little victory counts—whether it’s getting the kids to bed on time or sneaking in a five-minute breather. Celebrate those moments!

Redefining Productivity and Success

At the end of the day, success isn’t measured by how much you cross off your to-do list, but by how well you prioritize what truly matters. Recently, I found myself at a crossroads that really drove this lesson home. For the past two years, I’ve been the default parent volunteer at my daughter’s school fall festival, organizing everything from volunteers to activities. It’s a role I’ve come to fill without hesitation, but this year, something changed.

I was offered an incredible opportunity to attend and speak at a conference for mompreneurs, and my first instinct was to turn it down. The festival needed organizing, the parents and teachers were expecting me, and I felt torn between my responsibilities and doing something for myself. But as I thought about the direction I want to take with Mom, Wife, Worship Life, I realized this conference was exactly what I needed—not just for myself, but as a way to show my daughters what it means to balance responsibilities with joy and passion.

Saying yes to the conference wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. It was an opportunity to pour into myself, to refuel so I could show up even better for my family. By attending, I was modeling for my daughters that it’s okay to put yourself first sometimes, to pursue what brings you fulfillment while still handling your responsibilities.

This shift in perspective is something I want to share with other moms. Success means knowing when to step back, when to say yes to yourself, and when to embrace moments that bring you joy and help you grow.

Let’s continue this conversation together! Join the Thriving Mama Tribe Facebook group where we support one another in finding balance and thriving in our roles as moms and wives. Let’s lift each other up and redefine what success really looks like. Come on Mamas, we got this!